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Patriarchy Comfort Zone

My mother was not a feminist. In fact, by today’s political divisiveness, she would be what many call Alt-Right. She was so far to the right that she had no rights.

I remember my mom going to an ERA (Equal Rights Amendment) meeting to satisfy her curiosity. It was around 1979. She came home upset that women would insist on being anything but a righteous and obedient wife and mother. She used the old cliche “a woman’s place is in the home” followed by, “not gallivanting off trying to make money.” She then went on to say said that only angry divorcees and lesbians were feminists and she would have nothing to do with that. I did not know what either one of them were, but I was old enough to know that I didn’t want to be like my mother.

Not much has changed in some parts of our country. There are still women fighting to keep the patriarchy alive and in charge.

And I understand it because I’ve been there – it was ingrained in me as a little girl. There is comfort in letting someone else be in control of their destiny and comfort in wearing hand-me-down beliefs. There is comfort in staying in pre-defined roles and lanes even when the lanes are restrictive. Everything and everyone in their place maintains order and the male God’s plan.

This isn’t a judgement, just a reflection, and understanding why a segment of our society is clinging to the old ways.

It feels safe and comfortable there. It’s what they’ve always known, and change can be frightening. The old ways are comfortable, even when the discomfort is almost unbearable. This comfort is the reason women stay in abusive marriages, sweep painful stories under the rug and hold themselves beneath the power of patriarchy. There is safety in keeping things the same as they’ve always been, even when it isn’t really isn’t safe.

Fear creates anger and anger drives division.

Change is inevitable. Understanding that many are facing a real fear of change, helps us understand why some women continue to support the patriarchy, even as they continue to be abused by it. It’s their comfort zone.

It’s up to us, the change makers, to understand why they choose what they choose and try to love them through the fear. We can all get thought this re-balancing of masculine and feminine. They need us to not hold them in resentment simply because they cannot know what they don’t know.

And, it’s up to us, to no longer be afraid to ask for our own needs to be met. This is how we empower ourselves without dis-empowering our men.

Until next time Get Bold, Be Courageous and Speak Your Truth!

Taking the Leap of Faith

I know it’s been a very long time since I posted on my blog. I’ve been cocooning and leaning into what’s next. I finally took the leap of faith and jumped with both feet into my higher purpose.

For far too long I was attempting to be someone I’m not. I followed the “shoulds” even when I recommended to other’s not to should on themselves. The “should” was that if I wanted to be a successful author I “should” have programs to sell and I “should” be a coach. I invested way too much money in branding gurus and coaching experts to figure out how to be a coach, even when everything inside of me told me that’s not who I was.

The experience was a valuable learning experience as everything always eventually is. It turns out that coaches, authors and healers are a big part of who I am here to serve. I wouldn’t know how to best serve them if I hadn’t had the experience of being one. I call them Transformation Messengers and they are vital to healing the broken heart’s of humanity.

One thing it took me long enough to learn is that if it’s too hard, it isn’t meant to be.

I was trying too hard to push through doors and brand myself as the “go to” guru, because that’s what I was told I “should” do. A couple of years ago I quit trying and focused on family, finishing up a few more books (watch for those coming soon) and get really clear on my direction. I started letting go of everything I didn’t need. Bags and bags of clothing, home decor, office supplies, people… yes I even let go a few co-dependent relationships I didn’t even know I had.

Then I started to really understand what surrender means. I gave up everything that didn’t align, even when it hurt to let go. I started being and allowing, and with that came a sense of peace. What I find really interesting is that once I stopped coaching and just allowed what’s next to come in, life began flowing with greater ease. That grace and ease is how I know when I’m on path.

Synchronicity is the magic of the universe and when it’s right, it just is.

Back in 2011 a received a wake-up call at 4:00 in the morning. It was a call from my inner voice telling me I needed to make a movie about polygamy. It was a wake-up call into being who I’m really here to be, it just took me a while to finally understand. Polygamy, that was easy, it was ingrained in me from birth, but I knew nothing about the film industry. I decided to trust my inner voice and started learning what I needed to know, not even sure why I needed to know it.

Fast forward to now. The polygamy movie still sits on the cutting room floor, but what I’ve leaned is so much more. The film industry, making movies is where I’m intended to be. Every time I start working on a film project it comes together like magic and when I’m pursuing anything else the process is long and hard. Lesson learned! It took me long enough.

Follow the magic and see where it leads.

On that note, I’m working on a movie about homelessness. It’s a passion project for all of us working on it, as we have all experienced homelessness ourselves. We want to tell this story in a way that is beautiful, artistic and compelling – not just a bobbing heads documentary. We are making a film that serves the greatest good for humanity. You can learn more about the “PEARL” project and the movement to end homelessness HERE. You can also checkout the Facebook and IMDB pages. 

It takes a community to create real and lasting change. You can be a part of the changing by helping us fund this very important film. Here is the link for the Seed & Spark campaign.

Giving is the new getting” – Michael Beckwith

Thank you for being the light that you are and for trusting your own path, 

Until next time, Be Bold, Be Fearless & Speak Your Truth!


Secret Cult Stuff…

I’ve often heard the middle of the night wake-up as the witching hour. Somewhere our religions seem to have confused the inspiration that comes when there are no distractions, with something outside of their control.
My childhood system of belief called it temptation, I know otherwise. We all have access to divine inspiration – not just the supposedly appointed few. The so-called witching hour is when our mind is most open to inspiration and guidance from our higher-selves.

Several years back I woke up in the middle of the night to the message, “You need to make a movie about polygamy.”

These four-o’clock wake up calls sometimes happen when my soul has a message for me that requires my attention. This particular message took me by complete surprise. It had never been in the realm of my imagination to make a movie, sure I often daydreamed of having a movie made about my personal story, but me, a filmmaker, never. At the time I knew nothing about the film industry, only that I had dabbled in in for a few months in the late 1980’s and quickly discovered it was a distasteful business I wanted nothing to do with.

Why then, more than twenty years later, did I suddenly get the middle-of the night wake-up call to make a movie?

The next morning I sat on my couch, asking myself what the message was all about. The response was simply, “Keep your eyes and ears open today.” A little later I hopped onto Facebook and into a private group I rarely visited. It was a group full of angry individuals still suffering as the result of polygamy. When I did visit, it was to spread love and healing. That morning it became for a completely different reason.

Yes, I’m highly intuitive, and my inner-guidance was spot on!

Another uncommon visitor to the group asked if I knew anyone with the last name of Lithgow or Mackelroy. The first name I knew all too well. This was the last name of the girl that I ran away from home with. I haven’t seen or heard from her in 30 years.

I mentioned that I knew the last name Lithgow, and was met with a response that a filmmaker in Los Angeles was looking to make a movie about polygamy and looking for someone to help. Within 24 hours I was sitting down with that filmmaker, who just happened to have an opening in her very busy schedule, and within a week we were filming on location in now infamous Colorado City.

Yes, that middle of the night wake-up call was the real deal, as was the nudge to keep my eyes and ears open.

Amber Dawn Lee was that filmmaker. The movie itself still sits on the cutting room floor as they say, but you can see snippets of our interviews on her You Tube channel shown below.

Amber and I have become life-long friends. She taught me a crash course in film-making and introduced me to other actors and filmmakers. That first meeting with Amber has taken me on a completely new trajectory for my life in alignment with my soul’s higher purpose. This is about helping others have their stories heard.

We all have a pain story and those with the most painful stories have the greatest ability to affect the world. How you tell and use your story makes all the difference!

Until next time, Be Bold, Be Courageous & Speak Your Truth!

Back In The Speaking Race

It’s official, I’m back in the public speaking and on-camera race.

A couple of years ago I decided to step off the big stage and away from the camera to focus on finishing a few book projects, up-leveling my leadership skills and laying low with my family. Braces helped to solidify that decision !

My smile needed a face-lift. In the beginning I really believed having braces wouldn’t change any of my public appearances. Boy, was I wrong! Sure, the porcelain brackets looked okay on camera and from a distance on the stage, but, I quickly discovered that even a short speech or video segment, turned the inside of my mouth into veritable hamburger. OUCH!

Whew, I’m glad my reemergence into adolescence is over. 

The braces have come off, bone-grafting surgery is complete, the stitches come out today, and while I still need implants and some fine-tuning, I feel like a new woman with a whole new smile.

I need a smile that’s going to last me at least 50 years. That’s right, I’m just getting started…

This spring I’m running a marathon, heading toward the World Champion of Public Speaking. I’m also on the final stretch of becoming a Distinguished Toastmaster, a leadership program that isn’t for the faint of heart. I’m taking on a new role in the world of media and entertainment, (details on that after I have confirmation) and I’m heading back to the big stage for keynotes, teaching and storytelling.

Teaching, live from the stage and camera, is where my heart feels most alive!

My smile isn’t the only thing getting a face-lift. My brand is getting a face-lift as well. It too is a process and not a quick-fix, so if it looks a little wonky, it’s because it’s mid-birth. Although I am re-branding, the purpose remains the same, to help you heal your pain story and use it to empower a greater purpose in your life.

The purpose behind everything I do is to help you tell a better story about where you have been, what you have experienced and where you are heading. What exactly that will look like is still unfolding.

Life is all about trusting the process. 

What the world needs now, more than ever before, are Better Stories Worth Telling, stories that inspire others to take a stand for something greater within themselves and take a stand for something better for humanity.

We need stories that are real, raw… and true. Yes, telling these stories often takes tremendous courage, and that is what I hope to inspire in you.

Be Bold – Have Courage – Speak Your Truth

Your truth will set you free!


The Joy and Suffering Paradox

The paradox of suffering and joy exists. How we work with the paradox is how we find joy. This is with our own suffering, as well as the suffering of others. 

The paradox of joy and suffering are a part of the human experience, as paradoxes are. The paradox exists as a medium for growth. There is a difference between embracing the paradox of joy and suffering, and being a doormat for suffering in the belief that it is a spiritual practice.

The religion that I grew up with told us that suffering was a gift from God for women, and women’s suffering in silence allowed men to have joy. Suffering made women more beautiful because it kept them meek and humble, and at the feet and will of men as representatives of God.

The paradox of joy and suffering, in this system of belief was very extreme, and was encoded in me as a very young child. It is still a work in progress, as life is. Finding the courage to speak my truth in the presence of men can still unnerve me at times.

Suffering does’t make anyone more beautiful, but it can offer a lesson in self-growth that can lead to a more beautiful way of moving through life.

Joy is a result of recognizing the suffering exists and healing it; first accepting its existence, and second, treating it with healthy applications of love, beginning with self-love.

Recognizing the suffering, and wallowing in it without resolution, are two different things. There is also a difference between processing the suffering and spiritually bypassing it.

Without recognition and acceptance, then processing and resolution, the lesson that suffering has to offer isn’t learned. Ignoring, stuffing (staying sweet and silent) or bypassing the suffering halts to path to joy. Until the lesson is learned, the suffering will continue, and joy is held at bay.

The suffering will keep coming up, again and again, until it is resolved and the lesson is learned.  

Choose to see the suffering as an opportunity for personal self-growth. This requires facing it with courage, refusing to stuff it and pretend it doesn’t exist and resolve it with love and fortitude.

Life is that ALL beings might have joy. Everyone suffers, it is part of the human experience on earth school. How long we suffer, and how we manage the suffering is a choice. We are all empowered with choice.

Choose Joy!


Telling The SHeros Journey

This past year my entire focus has been on fully stepping into my highest purpose. This has meant letting go of my coaching business as a solopreneur (which was great when my children were small) and creating the entertainment company I’ve always envisioned.

For the past 6 years the idea has been brewing as I’ve been learning the processes and accumulating all of the aspects needed to make the vision a reality. This is a culmination of all of the lessons I’ve learned in traditional business, mentoring clients, book writing and publishing, speaking on stage, storytelling, event planning, film-making, media interviews, researching technology, inter-personal connections, in-depth analysis and of course, tuning into my highest truth.

All of it culminates into one concept I call C.O.R.E. an acronym for Conscious Original Revolutionary Entertainment. The focus of CORE is Better Stories Worth Telling.

Part of telling a better story is how that story is structured. This brings us to what I’m calling The SHero’s Journey, telling a story that illuminates the heroism in all of us and inspires every person who reads, hears and sees it. This gives you, the storyteller, the ability to fully be the change you want to see in the world, and gives your personal journey a higher purpose, beyond simply building your business.

Core Stories: Better Stories Worth Telling

The SHero’s journey is a combination of the Hero’s Journey and the Heroins Journey into one transformational story that unifies the masculine and feminine heroic story in all of us.

This all stems from a new level of clarity about how I can serve humanity at my very best. My personal purpose is to teach others how to empower their higher purpose by Transcending and Reverberating their personal stories. My global purpose is to create the space for these stories to be read, heard and seen.

Stay tuned for more details as the final pieces of the puzzle are brought together.

In the meantime, if you have a pain story you are ready to turn into a SHhero’s journey and create a better core story, visit the programs page to learn more about the processes and send me a personal request on my contact page.

We are already in the process of looking for exceptional stories that can be published and shared on stage and film. Using our SHero’s Journey formula gives you a leg up as we get ready to launch.

As Always, Be Fearless & Free!


Soul Sucking Jobs

Have you ever had one of those jobs that feels like it is sucking the life out of you? Do you have a job that you want to love and commit to, like your other relationships, but it makes you sick to your stomach when you think about it?

A friend of mine calls this a “soul sucking job.” For many people, having a soul sucking job is the result of workplace bullying, or at least the perception of it. Workplace bullying, just like other forms of bullying isn’t always easy to recognize. Sometimes what feels like bullying really isn’t and sometimes what feels like simply being treated unfairly really is bullying. Sometimes what starts as bullying becomes harassment and can even lead to abuse. One thing is clear, bullying hurts everyone it touches. What causes the pain isn’t the words or actions of others but the way they are received.

“Whether it comes from your church members, family, partners, peers, co-workers, leaders or stranger’s, one thing is clear, coercion, bullying and belittlement  hurts, sometimes leaving scars can last a lifetime. The only way to end the pain is to heal the cycle!” 

Bullying has become a catch-all label for various forms of physical and emotional trauma. Humans have always had to deal with issues of drama and trauma, the real difference is that we are no longer willing to tolerate it as normal and acceptable behavior. “Boys will be boys” and “that’s life” doesn’t cut it anymore. As the collective heart of humanity opens we are no longer willing to tolerate abuse, however it is justified.

Mary’s Story: I never worked for men again after that

Depressed-Woman“I was an executive assistant to a high profile executive who brought in a lot of money for the company.  I had a beautiful office in a high rise building tons of natural light in a meticulously decorated space. They even had fresh flowers delivered to my office every day. At the beginning the job seemed like a dream come true and could hopefully lead to advancement in the company. It was a company with a strong reputation in commercial real estate. It didn’t take long to realize that my new boss didn’t see as anything but a lowly assistant. Actually I was more like his personal servant. Every morning I got to the office before he did. All of his employees get to the office before he wandered in. It became pretty obvious that his mood was determined by the success of his date the night before and he seem to have any qualms talking about the most recent lady in his life. Sometimes he had temper tantrums like a two-year old and I suspected he forgot his meds. Of course I wasn’t surprised one day when he asked me to go to the pharmacy for him while I was out picking his dry-cleaning. The men in the office laughed at his crude jokes but they never respected him. He had them on eggshells too. I took the job thinking I was getting a high profile position in a company that could move her into management, but I started having my doubts.  He obviously had no respect for me because he had no respect for women in general. He made that pretty clear I was very good at my work and was making great money for the position, so I didn’t want to complain. But inside, I started feeling more and more depressed. I started dreaded going to work but I needed the paycheck, and I still hoped I could maneuver my way into a better position eventually. Click here for the rest of the story…

Jose’s Story: I was fired 12 days before Christmas

“I use to like people but a bully shot me down! Bosses should lead employees not bully them! People talk about teenage bullies but what aworkplace-bullyingbout work place bullies? Remember bullies come in all shapes and sizes. I was bullied by an adult, my manager at a high level financial institution. After he successfully made me sick with nerves and caused my blood pressure to go up. He fired me via UPS 12 days before Christmas while I was out on a workers comp pending case. My family will never forget the pain he caused us! I haven’t worked since due to all of this. He once told me that I couldn’t wear the hats I’d been wearing to work for almost four years with no problem. He said it was companypolicy yet there was nothing in writing. I called HR and they said there was nothing in the codes about hats. About six weeks later he decided to tell me that I could wear hats again but only a couple days a week. I asked him what about the policy and he replied, “I’m in control.” It was his way of throwing his weight around, what a bully! Click here for the rest of the story…

Amy’s story: I was in my forties and crying like one of my kids. I felt so ashamed.

woman_crying“I started a new company a couple of year ago. It was a business I had been dreaming about for years and thought for sure it was the business that would make my mark in the world and make a difference in other people’s lives. I consider myself a heart-centered entrepreneur. Coming up with the money to start my new concept was a challenge but she found a willing investor who also became my partner. I was to run the day-to-day operations of the business and the investor was a silent equal partner.  Almost as soon as the doors opened my partner began hovering. Nothing I did felt good enough. Everyone knows it takes 2-3 years to become profitable, but when the company still hadn’t broken even after three months, my so-called silent partner made it clear that I wasn’t performing my job. I was pounding the pavement every day doing marketing and managing employees at the same time. I thought I was doing great but it wasn’t enough according to her. My partner began showing up at the facility without notice, telling employees what to do and telling me how to do my job. I had to make this business work, my name, reputation and family depended on it. My partner seemed relentless on telling me everything I was doing wrong and confused employees didn’t know who to report to. Employees became disgruntled and started blaming me for everything that was wrong and the good ones got so frustrated they just left.  The business that I had always dreamed of having become a nightmare.” Click here for the rest of the story.

Where are they now? The three individuals in this article have moved on. Mary used her experience to leave the corporate world behind. She used her experience as the impetus to start her own company and is happily self-employed. Jose’ is still unsure what his next step is with his career and he is using his experience to become an anti-bullying activist. Amy has started another company, this time venturing out own her own, free from the encumbrance of a partner.

In the end, all three of them came to see the value in their experience as an opportunity for personal growth. 

Until next time, Grow Bold, Get Fearless and Be Free!



Bodacious to Bullied and Back Again

Okay, so maybe I’m dating myself, like I have anything to hide, but the word “bodacious” still rocks in my world. Remember the 80s? Valley girls, righteous dudes and bodacious babes? I finally figured out what it takes to be a bodacious babe and it’s not what I though!

Bold + Audacious = Bodacious


  1. not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff; courageous and daring
  2. not hesitating to break the rules of propriety; forward; impudent
  3. necessitating courage and daring; challenging
  4. beyond the usual limits of conventional thought or action; imaginative
  5. striking or conspicuous to the eye; flashy; showy


  1. extremely bold or daring; recklessly brave; fearless
  2. extremely original; without restriction to prior ideas; highly inventive
  3. recklessly bold in defiance of convention, propriety, law, or the like
  4. lively; unrestrained; uninhibited

Based on the above description I can definitely say I’m a bodacious babe. Funny thing is, I always was one. I just didn’t know it.

As a child I was punished for being strong-willed, independent, daring and free-spirited. I was a precocious child who could see and think outside of the carefully crafted box my parents put me in.  My defiance against the system that used terror to control me made my father punish me all the more. Now, before I sound like a whiner, my well-meaning parents were simply over-protective and did the best they could with what they knew. They believed in a God that bullied them and unleashed His punishments if they failed to control me.

The continual pounding on my body, mind and heart finally broke my spirit and my will, just the way parents believed I needed to be.

I grew up with the archaic belief that, “a child’s will needs to be broken” and “you must come to God with a broken spirit.” By the time I reached my teens I was sufficiently broken. What I didn’t know then that I know now, is that the extent of trauma I experienced at the hands of my peers, occurred because I had already been traumatized as a child. Kids with no self-esteem make easy targets for relentless bullies.

It took a very long time for me to put the pieces of myself back together, re-build my will and heal my broken spirit. It turns out they never really broke me, just damaged my ability to recognize myself. It turns out that the spirit, just like the body, can be healed and restored. Now I’m back to my strong-willed, free-spirited, bold and audacious self.

Wow, it’s great to be myself again! How about you?

What I’ve discovered over years working with clients and meeting people at events, is that those who are drawn to me were strong-headed children too. There is nothing that compares to the flurry of excitement that comes with being given permission to be yourself, not only have permission, but being applauded for not fitting in the box. The reason bullying hurts so much isn’t the words and actions of others, but the lack of acceptance for being ourselves. Once you get to the place of self-acceptance it no longer matters what anyone else thinks!

Are you ready to be Bodacious?


Giving Is Essential To Your Own Wellbeing

At the core of every human being is the desire for love and acceptance which ultimately translates into a need for connection. As social beings, connection to other loving beings (human or animal) is one of our most basic human needs, right up there with food and water. Without expressions of love we become lifeless. Lack of feeling love and acceptance can lead to depression and even suicide.  

Giving and receiving are an outward way that love and appreciation are expressed. This form of expression is so vital to our wellbeing that we have created entire celebrations around reciprocation.

The act of giving is a natural anti-depressant and creates an emotional high when the giving is truly from the heart. That is, giving with gratitude for the ability to give and gratitude for the person, people or animal(s) you are giving your offerings to. The desire to give is built into us as strongly as the desire to receive. The sense of inner fulfillment that comes with giving is just as rewarding as receiving, if not more so. Yet we diminish the fulfillment that comes with giving when we give from guilt or expectation.

Many of us go through life giving out of fear of judgement and not really recognizing the gift that giving has the ability to provide us. Giving, regardless of the reason, must accompany gratitude or the internal reward for giving is dramatically diminished, if not completely eliminated. Giving becomes drudgery when it is accompanied by expectation, guilt or worry, and the joy that comes with giving ceases to exist. When we give from anything less than gratitude we receive in less than joy. In fear we are cut off from our reward. We then become resentful of giving as we view it with sense of loss rather than recognizing our internal benefit.

Giving out of fear isn’t really giving, it is coercion, and that is what hurts.

Many of us have bought into the belief that one must lose in order for another to gain. We have been sold on the fear-based belief of give and take. Give and take is a creation of the human mind and is not the way of the universal law. What we perceive as give and take in the mind of the universe is give and receive. When we give in gratitude we receive joy. When the recipient receives in gratitude we receive joy. In the mind of the universe there is only win/win.

In this season of gratitude and giving it is easy to remember giving from our hearts. What about the rest of the year?  Gratitude opens a gateway for you to receive more of what you desire. In every interaction with people, paying bills, buying groceries or donating your time and service, give your gifts with gratitude and you will find yourself with even more to be grateful for.

Speaking of giving, here is a gift for you from my video affirmation series.

Until next time, be Fearless & Free! 

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Resilience In The Face of Adversity

Resilience is the power or ability to return to original form after being bent or stretched. It is elasticity. It is the ability to recover from any adversity; mental, physical or otherwise.

The word resilience came to me in response to red-ribbon week at my children’s school and the subject of bullying. For me, the subject and sensitivity to bullying has gone too far. Bullying is certainly nothing new; we’ve simply given it a new name and focused our attention on it.  There have always been individuals who cause pain and suffering on the minds, hearts and bodies of others because they themselves are suffering. That hasn’t changed. What has changed is our awareness and nonacceptance of it, and our sensitivity to it. That sensitivity and lack of resilience has created the assumption by many that if anyone has an opinion that differs from ours, they are bullies. Over-sensitivity has caused far too many of our people to take their own lives and take others with them. This sensitivity and lack of resiliency is fueling more and more anger in our societies. The result is the inability to understand each other without judgement, which, in turn, stunts our own growth.

Resilience is the ability to not take the perceptions, choices and actions of others personally.

Resilience comes from knowing that you don’t need to take personal ownership of other people’s issues. What others say, think, feel and do is always about them and not about you. There will always be people who don’t agree with you, who don’t like you and don’t think the way you do. There will always be people who are better looking, more talented and more popular. There will always be parties that you don’t get invited to because you don’t fit their agenda. There will always be people who don’t resonate with you or have chemistry with you. There will always be people who hurt others because they themselves are hurting. That is simply a part of life and always has been. It is no one else’s responsibility to make you happy.

Do you remember the saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?” 

Yes, names do hurt. Not getting invited to the party hurts. Having someone tell lies about you hurts, and yes, hearing an opinion that is the opposite of your own hurts. But it doesn’t need to break you. Unfortunately, people have become so overly sensitive that they now break like china dolls, lashing back in anger and resentment at what feels like the slightest insult against their own beliefs without any real attempt to understand. We have become so sensitive that we have forgotten what bullying really is.  Until you have had your head pushed in a toilet, been beaten up in a bathroom, had your faced smashed into a locker, and been thrown into a dumpster, like I was, don’t whine to me about how someone hurt your politically correct and overly sensitive feelings.

Until you have been shot in the head by the Taliban like Malala was, you don’t really understand the full scope of what bullying, and resilience, can be!

Let us continue to teach kindness, compassion and understanding, and also teach resilience. Let us teach our children how to create an environment where we are all free to speak and embrace conversations where we can agree to disagree. Let us teach open-mindedness where conversations can lead to breakthroughs in understanding. Let us create an environment where freedom of speech really is free. Let us use the many voices and perceptions to create a new world that is win/win, where there is no right vs. wrong; instead, there is only understanding. And while there are those whose words and actions are intended to be hurtful because the purveyors themselves are dealing with their own suffering, let us include them with compassion into the conversation, work with them to heal their own wounds and create resilience within themselves.

Every advancement of the human species has come through new understanding, courage to speak even in the face of the greatest adversity and resilience to overcome.

Nothing great was ever accomplished in this world by keeping thoughts and opinions small out of fear of other people’s perceptions. Resilience is using all of that which hurts us to make ourselves stronger and less likely to break. It gives us the flexibility to see other people’s perspectives with a more open mind. It gives us the resolve to be more of what we have the capacity to be. It stretches us and causes us to grow. It gives us the ability to bounce back in the face of failure and adversity.

All great things in this world have stemmed from resilience.